Wednesday, May 23, 2018

# marriage # online dating

When a Married Man Falls in Love with Another Woman




Yes, it does happen… I have worked as a private relationship expert and life coach to the rich and famous for many years, I know everything YOU need to know about this subject.

What the married man does about falling in love with a woman who is not his wife will depend very much on his personality and the situation he is in.  It will also depend on why he was cheating on his wife and seeing another woman in the first place.  You can take 500 married men who fall in love with another woman and you will have 500 different outcomes and thoughts, so we have to generalize.

If a married man is constantly being unfaithful to his wife or looking to then he is just a player and probably should not be married. It makes you wonder marriage: is there any point? When the man is a player who should really be single and does not love his wife or value monogamy then it would be pointless for him to leave his wife for the other woman. For one thing, he has no idea of how and is too immature and lazy to make any relationship work as a committed serious long-term thing.  He may very well believe he is in love with this new woman but she is a passing fancy just the same as his wife was at one stage.  He may think he loves her simply because he finds her exciting or enjoys the sex, but that does not mean he is actually in love with her.  If he leaves his wife to be with the other woman,  which is very unlikely,  then the same pattern will probably repeat itself, with him becoming bored with the new relationship just as he did with his marriage,  and then he would be looking to cheat on this new person.   It is possible but very unlikely that it is true love or that he can remain interested in and faithful to this new woman.  If you are seeing such a married man then you are better off to enjoy it while it lasts and see it as a fun only short term thing or to walk away.

Every married man comes to a point where he asks himself should he divorce his partner.

When the man is truly unhappily married and was maybe tricked into marriage or forced into it somehow, and has a lot of genuine love to give to the woman he is seeing then things are different.  The problem with such married men is that they often get torn between love and obligations or love and familiarity and even if they long to leave their wife they rarely feel they are able to or can bring themselves to.  These men are fine to date if you like living alone and are independent and have a busy happy life in other ways,  and do not expect anything such as marriage or living together with this man. Presumably because he genuinely loves you and cares for you he will make sure he spends a lot of time with you, otherwise, I would not bother.  It may hurt but it may well be better to walk away and be alone or find someone more available then.

What we all want is to find the perfect partner. How to find the perfect woman is a bit of a cheek though if you are married. A woman who has a lot to offer will not bother with a married man.

When the man has been in his marriage for a long time and has reached an age where he needs to be reminded that he is handsome and sexy and where it is normal for boredom to set in after such a long time BEWARE.  These men are after someone to flatter their ego and give them great lovemaking and if they can be seen out with you they want to show off their trophy of a beautiful woman.  They may even want to show off to people that they have a secret life and another woman hidden away waiting for them.  But ask yourself what is in it for you?  If you are waiting for stolen moments and just there to give him excitement and making love seems very one-sided and how do you know that this man cares about you at all and is not just seeing you because it is convenient and easy and cheaper than paying a prostitute?  Surely the whole idea of this is lovemaking?

When a married man truly falls in love with another woman he wants to leave and be with her.  He does not try to fob her off with excuses or prefer being with his wife.  He may think his wife is nice and good company but he would never ever choose the wife over the woman he loves.  So look at the whole picture and why the man is married and there in the first place, look at his personality and whether or not he is an honest and decent person who thinks of other people as well as himself.

Married men who are unhappily married are two a penny, there are lots of them about.  Many of them try to date single women others try to date married women. The grown-up responsible thing to do would be to make a decision about their marriage and either make it work or walk away from it.  Very few women are going to bother to make do with being a bit on the side.

The married man who has drifted apart from his wife and now falls in love with another woman and truly wants to be with her properly and is willing to make that happen will have a lot to do.  He has to walk away from a life he may have been living for many years, it may mean disruptions at work or with his family or not seeing his children so much, it may mean arguments with friends and it may mean financial or material loss.   But he would be willing to do that to be with the woman he loves.  When a single man asks a woman to live with him he gives up nothing other than loneliness, when a married man says it and means it he is sacrificing a great deal, which proves that he loves his woman and he is worth the efforts and heartaches that happen when sorting such a situation out.

Most married men prefer to have a single girlfriend.  Some prefer to have a married girlfriend.  If you are a married man who is seeking a girlfriend you need to know why married men prefer single women.  Let us be totally honest here,  most married men are seeking a girlfriend for sex.  He can probably escape from his wife and work one evening a week at the most.  What is the point of this if the girlfriend can only get away from her husband and other things once a week and it cannot be at the same you are free?  Or you are lucky and she can manage it when you can but you want to see someone more than once a week?

Sometimes it is better for the married man to find a married girlfriend, at least she will not be nagging him to leave his wife.  Married women who are unhappily married have a lot to offer but their man snag is probably that they are usually too busy with their husband to meet up very often.

Some married men are in a situation where it is not practical or easy to leave yet they do love their mistress.  If the mistress can be happy with that fine, but most are not.  Usually, these men dream of finding a married woman who is in a similar situation to them,  they think to themselves if only they could find a married woman who is staying with her husband but meets them for sex and excitement.  It does not occur to them that the woman would probably leave her husband if she is bored with him, rather than cheating on him or that the woman could find a single man who is more available for her fun.  The idea of two married people leaning on each other for friendship, support, and fun sounds great but it rarely works as usually one can get more and goes off for more after a bit, and that is usually the woman.  Even when both people are married the woman has a lot of options available to her that the married man does not have… she could work as an escort if she is into casual loveless sex,   she could find a younger good looking single man who is available when it suits her rather than waiting until the married man has a free evening or day.   If she is after casual sex she is unlikely to bother with a man who can only meet her once a fortnight or so, it rather defeats the object, and to take risks with her husband finding out too would probably mean she would not bother. Anyway, if it is just sex or short term are affairs worth it? Affairs can be fantastic or give you a lot of heartaches.

It is no good just being in love with this woman you need to be able to seduce her so that she says yes.  How to seduce a woman is the first thing you need to know.  You also need to know how to turn on a woman.

Let us assume you are a married man and you have managed to get this woman interested, which is quite a feat as most women are not interested in married men.  Now you need to know how to get a woman into bed.

Now ask yourself if what is going on here is love or lust. Love would mean you genuinely care about the person and want what is best for them, even if it means you walking away from them for their own good.  Lust is when you are just thinking about how much you want to be with them and make love with them.  If lovemaking is the main thing to you need to know how to get a woman to do it with you.

Married men who want to find a lover can join dating agencies that are especially for married people seeking a lover.  Usually, these agencies charge the men a monthly fee to be a member and allow women to join and be members totally free of charge… this is because very few women would be interested in dating a married man even if they are married themselves. Even with the free membership for women, there are always a lot more males joining than females.  You have to ask yourself what sort of woman would bother to join a dating agency in the hope of meeting a man who is married, especially when it is easy to get such a man in the real World without joining an agency first.  The answer is a mixture of single mums who are desperate for a man to buy them a meal and a box of chocolates or help them pay their bills,  old ladies who have lost their looks and cannot get a single man and prostitutes.  If you are a married man and you are joining such an agency in the hope of free casual sex then dream on, life is not that convenient or simple and women are not always that desperate or silly! A man caught in a lonely marriage which he cannot leave might find a married woman in a similar situation if he looks long and hard.  Then he has to be pleased that he has found her rather than getting upset that he is trapped in a marriage that does not work and cannot be with her permanently. If you are the other woman you need to know the benefits of being the other woman. If you are determined to end up with him properly you need to know how to get a man to marry you.  

This really makes you realize that it is best not to fall in love in the first place.

Married men who love their girlfriends have a very big decision to make. Do they stay with the wife or leave to be with the girlfriend? If they leave the wife will that cause a lot of upset and problems? If they stay with the wife will the girlfriend dump him or cause him problems? Women who love married men usually end up dumping them.  When they are in love with a married man they try very hard to compromise and sacrifice to make it work but in the end, they usually decide they are getting far too little and giving far too much.

There is a knack to being married and being happy too.  How to be happily married forever is the key.  It is a lot better than getting married, becoming bored or unhappy and cheating.

One way or the other, no matter how much fun or love is involved, there may come a time when you think it is best to end this relationship.  Either because it is too complicated and you are fed up with the problems and limitations, or because the other person is too demanding, or the novelty has worn off.  How to dump your lover.




About Author
Alex Wise is a dating consultant and blog contributor for Loveawake dating site. He has been covering online dating, relationships, online and marriage niche since 2008. He loves sharing meaningful content that educates and inspires people to bring their dreams into reality.



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